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  • 1 Missionary Sex Positions
  • 2 Doggy-Style Sex Positions
  • 3 Woman On Top Sex Positions
  • 4 Oral Sex Positions
  • 5 Standing Sex Positions
  • 6 Sitting & Kneeling Sex Positions
  • 7 Unusual Sex Positions
  • 8 Sex Toys To Take Things Up A Notch

1. Missionary Sex Positions

 

Ahhh, Missionary. Traditionally considered the “default sex position,” Missionary offers lots of advantages to first-timers and people looking for sex that’s more on the vanilla side. However, there are lots of slight variations on it that can amp things up in terms of the pleasure, the intensity and the kink factor — for both partners. Check out these Missionary-inspired positions:

1. Missionary

The Missionary position (man on top, couple facing each other) is the most famous and classic of all sex positions. The eye contact, the mild male dominance and the angle of penetration make this a popular one, and odds are, the first time you had sex was in a Missionary position. A very comfortable position that allows for easy thrusting, and an easy pull-out if you’re a man, there’s plenty of benefits to it and it’ll work its way into basically any sexual encounter you find yourself in, at some point.

2. Coital Alignment Technique

Another spin on Missionary, the Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.), aka the Frog or the Perfect Position, looks to sacrifice elevation and power for proper positioning. Start in regular Missionary, and then flatten your torso as much possible, while your partner should arch her legs and put her legs on your butt. What you’re doing here is targeting the clitoris for more direct rubbing and friction. The pressure you put on her clitoris could help her get to orgasm quicker. You should also be staying nice and deep within her in this position, too, to ensure maximum. In other words, this position is more for her pleasure than yours.

3. Legs On Shoulders

A classic take on Missionary, this one can either be done with you lying down on top of her, or with her positioned at the edge of the bed and with you in standing (or more accurately leaning in) with her legs on your shoulders as you penetrate her. This position gives the man all of the control of penetration, but it will also allow you to penetrate more deeply, so it’s a win-win. You may need to grasp her legs and pull in gently to prevent your thrusting from pushing her away from you.

4. The Pancake

A more extreme variant of the Legs On Shoulders position, this one really puts you in the driver’s seat. Start with your torso more or less vertical and her legs on your shoulders. Descend slowly until you’re basically folding her in half. For more leverage, you can reach around her back with your arms and pull her tightly against you. This one is very intimate, but it also gives her very little mobility, so it’s basically you who is 100% in charge of the thrusting. The pressure you’re putting on her muscles can also create a tightness in her pelvis, leading to an increased tighter feel for you. You should make sure she’s flexible enough to pull this one off — many women aren’t — and keep in mind you’ll probably be able to pull this off for just a few minutes.

5. Swivel And Grind

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If you’re working with a little bit less than the average man, the Swivel and Grind is your friend. Instead of the ol’ in-and-out pumping, which is actually better for you than it is for her. Instead, once you’re inside her, use your hip rotation to grind and twist inside of her, pressing your shaft as hard as you can against her clitoris. The friction and pressure will be what brings her to orgasm, no matter what your size. To get maximum closeness, Missionary with legs on shoulders works best. You may also want to consider propping up her hips on a pillow or wedge (you can find specially made ones) to create the perfect angle.

6. The Viennese Oyster

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Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: The Viennese Oyster requires she place both of her ankles behind her head, fully exposing her vulva and folding her body into the shape of an oyster. He holds her ankles in place while she uses her free hands to prevent his body weight from crushing her contorted body. This is great for extra-deep penetration.

7. Spread Eagle

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This one’s not for beginners, as it requires a little light bondage. But if you’re exploring kinkier options with your partner, this is a great option that allows you to take a more dominant role while still offering both of you a lot of intimacy. With your partner on her back, have her spread her legs and tie her ankles and her wrists together. You then have total control for a very steamy, powerful romp.

 

2. Doggy-Style Sex Positions

 

Dogs, it turns out, are more than just our best friends. They’ve also figured out a pretty good way to get it on. Doggy-Style and other positions where you’re doing your partner from behind offer you a lot of control, and while they’re typically less intimate than Missionary or its variations, sometimes that’s exactly what you (or your partner) are looking for. Doggy variations allow for all kinds of positioning possibilities, as each person can be standing, kneeling, or lying down; it can be good for role play where staring into each other’s faces might ruin the illusion; and it typically means both of you have the option to stimulate the woman’s clitoris. What’s not to love?

1. Doggy-Style

Doggy-Style is one of the favorite sex positions of millions of people for a few reasons. It’s the classic female submissive position and really lets the man be in control, and there’s more than a few variations on it. In its simplest form, you kneel on the bed, with your partner on all fours. Enter her from behind, and hold onto her hips and/or torso. You can decide to go slow or hard. If you want to add some roughness, and your partner is into that, this position is solid for pulling on hair or spanking as well, to add to the general submissiveness of the position. If you have a free hand, a clitoral reach-around or playing with her breasts can add extra stimulation to the position.

2. Reach For The Sky

Doggy-Style is normally done kneeling, but it doesn’t have to be. An easy transition from normal Doggy-Style, in this version you actually get up on your feet and stand up, and lean way over her. You’ll get somewhat of a less intense thrust than regular Doggy-Style, but in return you’ll have a different sensation, particularly for her, and a pretty decent workout for your hamstring and ankles from it. The leaning forward actually lets you get a somewhat deeper feel, and the difficulty quotient will make you feel all the more accomplished for pulling it off.

3. Bedside Doggy-Style

A lot of sexual positions have the woman on an elevated platform with the man on the ground — this one flips the script. Go the edge of the bed and kneel. Have her standing straight up and back up to you slowly, and then bend over at 90 degrees. You then enter her from behind and thrust away. This one has a little bit less of the hands-on potential of traditional Doggy-Style, but it’s an interest take on the position that’s arguably even more male-dominant. If you want to make things easier on her back, you can place a chair or desk to place her arms on for support.

4. Backdoor Planking

Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: This position not only accesses the G-spot and the A-spot to create squirting orgasms but it’s also comfortable for the female partner after switching into several positions. Backdoor planking is a position where the female partner lies on her stomach with her legs positioned close together, and is penetrated from behind. This position requires little work on her behalf, but feels amazing because her legs are placed closely together which creates a tighter entry for him and increased sensation for her.

5. Doggy-Style Stairs

Another set up that works for anal sex or vaginal sex, the Doggy-Style sex on the stairs takes advantage of the natural inclination and steps to create new angles and supports for a classic position. Again, carpeted steps or a towel to protect her knees are a good idea. Depending on your height, you can either be standing or kneeling for this one. The stairs mean she can keep herself more upright, and the fact that you’ll be on a lower step means you have a more natural, upright angle to enter her vagina than traditional Doggy-Style on a flat surface. Just make sure you don’t fall!

6. Spooning

Spooning is one of the “cuddliest” of the sex positions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it intense. You lie on your side, with your partner in front of you, facing away. Enter her from behind, and then both of you can control the pace and depth of thrusting. The position is comfortable, for longer sexual sessions with a lot of sensual touching and kissing of the back of the neck. You can also get quite handsy and reach around the play with her nipples or even reach down and add extra stimulation to her clitoris from the front. You can also make it anal.

7. Kneel Together

This position is a great variation on regular Doggy-Style. In this edition, you enter her from behind as you would normally with Doggy-Style, only then both of you straighten your torsos straight up. This position means her hands are a load free-er than they’d normally be during Doggy-Style, which means she can more easily play with her clitoris or even reach down and grab your balls.

8. Hyper-Connected Doggy

It’s a variant of the Doggy-Style position we are all familiar with. The man stands on the floor at the edge of the bed, and the woman gets into typical Doggy-Style position on the bed. After the man has entered her he pulls the woman up towards him so that she is now kneeling at the edge of the bed, instead of being an all fours. He supports her with one hand wrapped around her torso. This position is so great because it allows you to get that deep penetration so many love about Doggy-Style but you are more connected with your partner because her whole body is up against you. Added benefits are that you can pull her hair, see her face, and also whisper nasty things into her ear, all at the same time, since you have one free arm. It’s intense, intimate, and feels good!

9. Chicken Wing Doggy-Style

This is a pretty straightforward Doggy variation. Start in the typical Doggy-Style position and then lift her up by her thighs. Make sure your arm/hand is underneath her leg for support. For additional support, bring your leg up and plant on your foot (with the same leg of hers that you are holding) and rest her leg on top of your knee.

10. The Superhero

Perhaps the ultimate strength test sex position, the “Superman” sees you bend her over a desk or table, with her using it for support. Then, once you’re inside her, lift her pelvis up slowly until her feet are actually off the ground, and you’re holding on to her as you thrust in and out. The sheer physical intensity of this one means it’s not for the faint-hearted, but can provide an adrenaline rush as you go closer and closer to your breaking point. Keep safety in mind and let her down gently as soon as your strength starts to wane, and make sure you don’t pull out too much.

11. The Lean Doggy

Dating writer Jeremy Glass writes: How it looks depends on (a) your partner and (b) the thing she’s leaning over. If you have a really understanding woman-friend who doesn’t mind being boned from behind while she rests her elbows on a wooden desk, all is well. Leaning your partner over, say, a table and taking her from behind requires work from her end (no pun intended) but allows the dude to go about sexy times while literally just standing there. Literally! How it feels depends on the surface. If you’re leaning your partner over a bathroom sink, it probably won’t be the best for her. However, if you’re leaning her over the bed and there happens to be a plate of pancakes and waffles on said bed… everyone’s happy.

12. Bent-Over Standing Doggy

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This standing twist on Doggy-Style takes some serious flexibility and commitment, but if you’re up for it (or down for it) it can be a fun addition to your roster of sex positions. This is also a great choice if you’re trying to get it on in public without being caught — she can completely dip down behind a bush or parked car for cover.

13. Out-Of-Control Cowgirl

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 In this one, the man kneels and sits back on his heels, while the woman sits atop him, facing away, to maintain total control, since he can’t thrust with as much power while on his knees.

14. The Cowboy

Before we get to the Woman On Top positions (aka different variations of the Cowgirl) let’s check out the Cowboy! Finally, your chance to ride. This is a variant on the Backdoor Planking position that sees you putting your thighs outside of your partner’s thighs instead of inside them. Your partner should push her butt up in the air a little bit to help give you a better angle — a pillow can help here.

 

3. Woman On Top Sex Positions

 

While the Missionary- and Doggy-inspired positions typically mean the man is in control of the action, positions that feature the woman on topallow your partner a lot more control over the speed, intensity and angle of penetration. They do offer the possibility of both of you facing each other, or away from each other; and either partner can take control of the thrusting, making these positions a versatile option that offers pleasure for all comers.

1. Cowgirl

Probably one of the first positions you learned, there’s more than a few reasons why the Cowgirl is arguably the favorite sex position in the world. You get to lie back and get a simply wonderful view of your partner moving up and down; she gets excellent clitoral stimulation and a lot of control of depth and penetration. Penetration-wise, this is arguably the quickest way for a woman to get an orgasm, although quite a bit more difficult for you in that position. Use your free hands to massage her breasts, and if you want to add an element of dominance despite your position on the bottom, you can place your fingers gently around her neck.

2. Reverse Cowgirl

A classic, the reverse Cowgirl puts the man on the bottom and has the woman straddling him facing away. She can control the angle of penetration here, and the man gets a great view of her from behind. If you want to change things up, arch your knees up to give her something to easily push off of. If you want to make eye contact and get a view of her from the front, a mirror could also be your friend here, although maybe you just prefer this position .

3. Crouching Reverse Cowgirl

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The Reverse Cowgirl is usually done in something of a vertical T-position, with the man lying flat on his back and the woman bouncing up and down mostly upright. You can add a variation to this by having her lean forward, so that her head is actually almost over top of your feet. By planting her arms onto the ground/bed or even grabbing your shins, she can really get a lot of leverage to move herself back and forth. This one really leaves her in control and lets you sit back and chill out, which all things considered.

4. Woman Lying On Top

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This position requires a lot of exertion on the woman’s part but could be very intense; it can also work as an anal sex position, and give her a lot of control in that scenario. It’s pretty self explanatory; you lie flat on your back hold her by the hips or butt, while she partly props herself up using her elbows and legs, arching her back and placing her shoulders and shoulder blades on your chest. Then she lowers herself up and down, to control how deeply you move in and out of her. To prevent her from getting tired, help her by supporting her butt and taking some of the weight.

5. The Backseat Special

The backseat is a favorite sex spot because of it being the most convenient spot to have sex when you’re typically surrounded by inconvenient places to have sex. So if you and your lover are driving down the highway and you’re bored as sin, and get understandable horny, you can’t well have a roll on the interstate. The backseat is a cramped, semi-public locale for sex, which can add to the thrill of it. For this, you’re probably better off sticking to the standard Cowgirl position, although Missionary might also be an option.

6. The Waterfall

The Waterfall is one of the strangest-looking sex positions out there, but once you try it you’ll understand why it’s worth it.

Sex expert Dr. Emily Morse says: The Waterfall is a variation on the popular Cowgirl position, but packs a super-sized climactic punch. Start by laying on the couch or bed with your head near the edge and your partner on top of you, but instead of riding you from her knees, she’ll need to lean back and shift her weight to her feet. Once she’s got the stance down, inch toward the edge of the bed or couch, letting your head and shoulders slide off onto the ground while your hips remain elevated. If you’re on a couch, drape your legs over the back of the seat or simply let your knees fall open. From here, your partner has complete control over the speed, depth and intensity of her gyrations, not to mention a free hand to use as she wishes — clitoral stimulation, anyone? There are a couple of ways to execute this pose: You can either use it as a bridge while building to orgasm, or moving into it right before the big finale. Either way, this position will cause the blood to rush to your head (and your other head) for an explosive climax. (Now you’ll understand why it’s called the Waterfall)

7. Zen Sex

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Some people want lustful, intense, passionate sex… and some people want more relaxed sex. If you’re in the mood for something a little more zen, try this position. In order to pull it off, your partner should put her legs into a full lotus position and lean forward on her hands. Or, she can move her hips up and down. Alternately, you can help by lifting her hips from behind to achieve an up and down motion.

 

4. Oral Sex Positions

 

Not all sex has to be exclusively genitals-on-genitals. Oral sex is always a great pleasure option, whether you’re giving or receiving — or both at once. Not to mention that many women report enjoying oral sex more than penetrative sex. So what are your options when it comes to blowjobs, cunnilingus and 69ing? Let’s check it out.

1. Lying For Him

This is probably the least work you’ll ever have to do to achieve orgasm, as you just lie back and let your partner do the work. This allows her to control everything that’s going on, too, meaning she has full control over the speed, the angle, the duration and more, making this a great option for both of you.

2. Lying For Her

One good turn deserves another — this position is the gender-swapped version of the above one and similarly allows her to relax and you to really get to work. It’s also perfect for amping things up a bit by adding some fingering to the mix to really take her pleasure to the next level.

3. Standing For Him

This has been a staple of porn scripts for a long, long time. While it might be a little less relaxing position to receive a blowjob, it’s a great option if there isn’t a bed available and/or if you want to feel more dominant or engage in role play while receiving oral pleasure. It also means you can experiment (only with your partner’s express consent!) with thrusting a little rather than just being passive.

4. Standing For Her

This is a bit trickier than the male equivalent, but it’s a solid option if there isn’t a bed available — although trickier to pull off in more public situations if your partner’s wearing pants or shorts. Just kneel at her feet, have her spread her legs a bit and go for it.

5. Face-Sitting For Him

Face-sitting can be very hot because it adds an extra element of dominance and submissiveness to your oral play. Have your partner lie on her back; she can prop up her head either using a pillow or leaning her shoulders against the wall. Then, thrust into her mouth. It’s a good idea to go gently here because you could make this uncomfortable otherwise. Talk to her beforehand to establish some boundaries and maybe a signal for whether you should stop; then during the act, work with her body language and cues to figure out your rhythm and how deep you can go.

6. Face-Sitting For Her

For female on male, this position works even better. The mechanics are pretty simple: you lie flat on your back, and she straddles your face with her thighs, lowering her crotch onto your head. You can also use a pillow to take some of the pressure off your neck. Women love this position, but a lot of guys do too, A) because it’s a pretty comfortable way to eat her out and B) there’s a bit of female dominance to the position. You also get the full experience: the taste, the heat, and moisture of her vagina. She can also add a bit more pressure if you want to kick it up a notch, in which case you’ll want to work out a signal in case you find yourself suffocating.

7. The 69

The classic mutual pleasure oral position, 69-ing is a thrill for the head-to-toe positioning. It also works for any combination of two sex partners. If you’re lying one on top of the other, typically woman on top is easier, with each of your pleasuring the other orally. An intense position, the 69 also tests your concentration and your ability to pleasure your partner while she’s doing the same for you. Work on this one and play with various configurations so you’re most comfortable.

8. Sideways 69ing

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Another fun option for the 69 is to simply turn it on its side. While sideways 69ing requires a bit more effort than the upright version, it’s a great option if lying on top of each other is tricky for whatever reason, and offers a fun new spin — literally — on a classic oral sex position.

9. The Upside-Down 69

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Not satisfied with simply turning the 69 sideways? Amp it up another level with the Upside-Down 69. This variations, which is not for beginners, also requires some specific hardware, as you’ll need a chin-up bar or some sort of equivalent bar for the top person to hang from. Don’t try this without first ascertaining that it can hold your weight (or your partner’s) though. You can also alternate which one of you is upside down if you’re really enjoying yourselves.

10. Sideways Oral

Recline on your side, and have your partner position herself so that her head is in line with your crotch. She should also be on her side, using and can wrap her arm around your legs for balance and leverage. From there, it’s up to you; you can totally sit back and let her do all the work, or provide the thrusting motion yourself. This is an incredibly comfortable and relaxed position for both of you. Your partner may need to tuck her legs in to prevent her legs from overhanging the bed (if that’s where you’re at) or even placing a chair next to the bed if you’re a taller couple so that her legs aren’t overhanging into nothingness.

11. Elevated Cunnilingus

A table, a windowsill, a countertop, whatever the case, having your partner up above means that you can go down on her… without going down too much. Have her bring her legs right up to the edge of whatever platform she’s on, and then either kneel or stand (depending on her and your height) and give in to the pleasure of cunnilingus. This is another one that is great for getting it on in public, because you don’t need a nice cushy surface to lie down on.

12. The Seated Blowjob

Is there anything better than getting a blowjob while seated? Don’t answer that; it’s a rhetorical question, and besides, the answer is no. Perhaps the most famous version of this blowjob position is getting one in a car, known as “road head.” That’s a sideways angle, but of course you can always do this in the privacy of your home instead of in a motor vehicle. In that case, your partner would probably approach from the front, with you seated on a chair of your choice and her kneeling in front of it.

13. Doggy-Style Oral

Unlike most other oral sex positions, this Doggy-Style one is (crazy bending ability aside) pretty much just for performing on women. Have her get down on all fours, either propping herself up on her knees and hands or knees and elbows. You then either get down on all fours and pleasure her orally from behind, or have her on all fours next to the edge of the bed so that you can either stand or kneel on the ground to make it easier on your back. This position is also great for analingus, if you so desire.

 

5. Standing Sex Positions

 

Whether you have a bed at your disposal or not, sometimes you just want to get it on standing up instead of lying down. Standing sex is a great option if you’re in the mood for sex positions that burn a few more calories, and if your heights line up just right, standing sex means, like some Doggy-Style positions, that you have a lot of freedom of movement. It’s also probably the most common go-to for public sex because it typically doesn’t require anything except two bodies (and you can still be wearing most of your clothes).

1. Standing Sex

Bro, do you even lift (your partner up to have sex with her?) Grab her thighs and then have her wrap her legs around you while hanging off your shoulders with her arms. Make sure you’re strong enough to pull this one off, and then penetrate her. You’ll probably have to lift her up higher and then slower her very slowly onto your penis. We’d add a pretty big note of caution here: make sure you have a very firm grip and take this slowly and safely, as there is the potential for injury here if you drop your partner — for both of you.

2. Against A Wall

This is a staple of movie sex scenes — two characters passionately embrace for the first time and, too lustful to make it to the nearest bed, simply get it on against the nearest wall. Like its wall-less equivalent, it’s taxing on your upper-body strength, but the wall means you’re not supporting all of your partner’s weight. It also offers great access to the neck and breasts so you can get in a lot of passionate kissing, and a lot of intimate face-to-face time.

3. Standing From Behind

Another public sex favorite that can work for anal, this position is relatively simple; both of you are standing, and you enter her from behind. She can be completely upright, in which case you’ll want either a wall, or a tree, or a similarly vertical object for her to lean against. Another way to do it is to have her lean against a desk or table.

4. Woman On Table Sex

For truly intense thrusting and sex that involves a lot of power, having your feet firmly planted on the ground is a great way to go. Have your partner lie flat on the table (this also works with any roughly waist-high platform) and have her butt pushed right up to the edge, or even overhanging a tiny bit. Then enter her and you’ll see how much power and stability you have from being in a standing position. As for her legs, there are a few options; you can have her wrap them around you, you could have them hanging down or up against your shoulders, you could even have her lie on her side as well for a differing angle of penetration.

5. Criss Cross

Sex expert Lindsay Tigar says: This is one of the less standard positions, but great to have in your arsenal. What this position does, essentially, is make your penis feel twice as big as it actually is, and all she has to do is cross her legs. You in? Figured as much. Find yourself a surface that is roughly at hip-height. Then lay your lady down on said surface with her legs draping over the edge. Standing between her legs, enter her, then lift and cross them so they form an X. From here, you can place her ankles on your shoulders. By crossing her legs, you have better access to her G-spot and become the girthiest dude she’s ever had. Presumably.

6. Pile Driver

This one is this one is no walk in the park for the man either. It’s an intense position by any stretch of the imagination, and one you’re not likely to be able to sustain for long. To get into this one, have her lie on her back, then lift her legs up slowly from her thighs until her torso is coming off the floor. Slowly raise her butt up so that it’s almost above her head, and then straddle her, using up and down motion to enter her. you’re going to have to lean forward somewhat in order to position your penis at the right angle, which is going to take a bit of bending regardless.

7. Bridge And Tunnel

This is a complicated sex position that shouldn’t be attempted by the inexperienced. That being said, for a couple who are really in sync, it’s a great option for trying something new and burning a few calories.

Astroglide’s resident sex expert Dr. Jess says: The partner in front spreads their legs and bends over, placing their hands on the floor. The other partner holds onto their hips and slides in from behind.

8. The Sitting V

Have her sit on table or counter with enough room for her to lean back, and with her butt slightly hanging off the edge. Support her back with your hands, and then have her place one leg on your shoulder, and then the other. Have her grab behind your shoulders for extra support. Then you can enter her. You control the thrusting in this position, because generally keeping her balance is going to be enough of a challenge in itself. This is a tough position, requiring flexibility on her part, and it’s made tougher if she has short legs or you have a long torso. But if she can pull if off, she deserves a pat on the back – she might need it for support anyway.

 

6. Sitting & Kneeling Sex Positions

 

Of course, standing positions aren’t for everyone. If the two of you don’t match up well height-wise, sitting or kneeling positions can be more comfortable and intimate, while also offering some new and unique options for getting it on.

1. Seated Sex

Sex expert Lindsay Tigar says: In case bedroom sex has got you bored, familiarize yourself with some good old chair sex. Sitting in a sturdy chair where both of your feet can touch the floor, have her straddle you (facing toward each other) and let her lower herself on top of you. Similar to the Cowgirl position, she can move herself up and down, or just grind on your junk.

2. The Lover

Nick Hawk, star of Showtime’s reality show Gigolos says: With “The Lover,” the man sits at the end of the bed and the woman straddles him. Both of these allow deep penetration and extra skin-to-skin contact.

3. Kneeling Sex

Another position that’s all about intimacy, kneeling sex can be rewarding if pulled off right. We’d suggest finding a cushion, pillow or yoga mat to take some of the strain off your knees. This position also works best if the man isn’t too much taller than the woman; if you’re 6’3” and your partner is 5’5”, this might not work. You kneel, placing your left outstretched knee to the left of the woman and your right leg behind you. The woman does the same. To get penetration, you should try to lower your pelvis beneath your partner’s (hence why this might be difficult for taller folk) and slip your penis into her vagina. Once you’re inside her, this position becomes easier, as she rocks her pelvis back and forth until you both get off. If your balance is good enough, there’s also potential for a bit of anal or nipple play with your hands.

4. Kneel And Deliver

Another kneeling sex position, this one also doesn’t require a bed or even nice surface to do your thing on. You get on your knees, resting your ass on your hamstrings. Have her sit down slowly until you enter her, with her wrapping her arms around you for added balance. While this one looks uncomfortable, the angle and stability actually mean this one can be reasonably intense, while providing eye-to-eye contact and a “do-it-anywhere” convenience.

5. The Bridge

A kneeling position for the man, the bridge gives you a wonderful view of her breasts and torso while demanding a lot of her physically. While she creates an arch with her arms and legs, you kneel in front of her and penetrate her. She won’t be able to do too much moving, aside from keeping herself upright, so your job is to grab her ass and start pulling her hips back and forth to get the necessary motion to make the whole thing work. Supporting her ass with your hands a bit will also take some of the strain off her arms.

6. The Butterfly

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Dr. Kat Van Kirk, sex expert for Adam & Eve says: She lays on her back with her hips off the bed. Her legs can either be wrapped around his hips, her feet can be flat on the floor or she can have her knees bent up to her breasts. This position allows for her to control the angle of penetration with her hips and both of them have hands free to explore one another and make sure the clitoris isn’t ignored. Plus, he can control the depth and speed of penetration that works for them both. This position also promotes intimacy through ease of eye gazing and kissing […] and it promotes communication because you see one another’s responses to stimulation.

7. Yab Yum

This is one requires a lot of intimacy and patience; you won’t get much intensity or deep thrusting. To get into this, you sit down facing your partner, and wrap your legs around her. She does the same, keeping her legs inside yours. She should slide her butt forwards a little bit until you can slide inside her. Probably not the one to try on a first date, but it can be rewarding all the same.

 

7. Unusual Sex Positions

 

 

Sex, being the diverse and crazy thing that it is, can’t neatly be divided into six simple categories. So of course this list has to include a section for all the weird, wild wet and wacky sex positions that simply don’t fit anywhere else. Are you looking to try something a little bit outside the box, to cross a few more things off your bucket list, to mix in some furniture or to add some serious spice to the relationship? This is the section for you.

1. The Wheelbarrow

This one is all about her upper body strength and your back and leg strength. Barring some kind of Olympian training you each have, this is probably a bit of a transition position rather than anything that’s going to lead to long-lasting sex or orgasm. Have her start on all fours, and then you lift up her pelvis until her vagina is in line with your penis. Grasp her around her hips firmly and thrust into her. Rather than having her try to do vertical pushups, or you pulling her back and forth, both of which are liable to tire you out, do the work with your hips. The position can actually be quite interesting for her clitoris.

2. The Surfboard

Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says: This sex position requires a bathtub big enough to accommodate the size of both partners and can be enhanced by lighting a few candles and adding some champagne. It is important to only fill the bathtub up half way to avoid overflow when you both sit down. In this position, the male partner sits in the tub with his legs extended and gets to relax. The female partner sits on top of her partner and puts in the work. She can sit with her back facing him or face him positioned on her knees or with her feet flat in the tub. The water in the tub can wash away natural lubricant, but the feeling of the water between both bodies will feel amazing!

3. Sex In A Hot Tub

Is there a specific sex position for the hot tub? Probably not, but it’s a natural place for sex; you’re already in close contact with people wearing very little other clothing anyway. In addition to the jets of a hot tub being a wonderful masturbatory aid for women to get her started (you can also fondle her nipples and lend a hand as well), there are benches all around for the man to sit on. Remember, finish quickly though: you don’t want to be in there for more than 20 minutes.

4. Scissoring

To be honest, aside from the awesomeness of the name, you might find this one a bit challenging. Scissoring involves you intertwining your legs together, and placing yourself at something approaching a 90-degree angle to each other. Insert yourself into your partner, and then move your hips to thrust in and out. You’ll need to do this slowly and carefully, as it’s pretty easy to slip out in this position. This position is pretty unique because it involves very little eye contact, and places your heads pretty far away from each other, and your body position is such that you can’t really use your hands to fondle her in any way. Little eye contact, a lot of distance, and difficult thrusting make this one a toughie, but sexually experienced couples should give it a go just for the novelty.

5. Scissor Straddle

Though “scissoring” is a real thing as well, this position requires a bit of twisting to make it happen and some knee endurance. Perfect for the woman to be fully comfortable and let herself go, this puts the man in full command of how fast and how deep he wants to penetrate. As with all such kneeling positions, this one is going to seriously test your leg muscles and how cramp-proof you are, but the effort is always worth it.

6. The T-Position

Most sex positions are have your bodies lined up more-or-less; here, this one involves putting the “d*ck” into perpendicular. Have her start off by lying on her back, you lie on your side, and penetrate her from the side. This sort of thing either works best on a nice comfy floor or a queen or king-size bed, but you’ll need a fair bit of real estate to pull this off. Once you’re inside her, you control the pace and depth of the thrusting. This position is a little bit less popular because it’s less obvious and doesn’t provide as intense or intimate experience as some of the others, but it allows you to shake things up. Additionally, because often men’s penises are wider than they are tall, this means that by effectively turning your penis sideways you can better target her clitoris.

7. The Sit ‘N’ Spin

This position uses the vibrations of your washer or dryer to add a little extra kick to your sexual experience. Sit on the edge of the machine while it’s running (spin cycle works best on a washer), and then have her mount you in Cowgirl position, or with her legs wrapped around. From there, she should feel the vibrations running through your penis, making her orgasm all the better. Best of all? Once you’re done, you’ll have clean clothes to change into.

 

8. Sex Toys To Take Things Up A Notch

 

What’s that? You want something more? Something a little… friskier? Of course, the more positions you try, the more fun you can have — but let’s not forget that adding some sex toys to the mix can really amp things up. If you’re looking for more ways to spice up your sex life, consider some of these options:

1. An All-Purpose Lube

There are plenty of formulas on the market engineered for specific use cases, depending on where (and what) you’re trying to lube up. But if you’re looking for a great lubricant perfect for any position you’re trying out, this water-based formula takes just about any position to the next level. It’s condom-compatible and completely safe to be used with toys. Plus it’s super long lasting, meaning you’ll get more bang for your buck… if you’ll pardon the pun. And in case you haven’t gotten to know your partner well enough to find out what she’s allergic to, this formula is completely organic, chemical and paraben free — which means you’ll be in the clear.

 

2. A Vibrator To Help Her Climax

It’s just a true fact that the majority of women need some kind of clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Of course, there are positions that are better for getting your lady there. But if you want to try something new without losing the benefit of clit stim, a vibrator is going to help achieve both of those goals. As long as you’re both getting off in a position you enjoy doing, everyone wins, right? The kneel together or even doggy style on the stairs let you have a free hand to use one on her. You don’t need one of those monster vibrators to get the job done, either. Something small and mighty like this finger vibrator will do the trick nicely.

 

3. A Penis Ring

If you’ve written off the idea of trying out a penis ring because you don’t need extra help lasting, it’s time to revisit the benefits of using one. For starters, wearing a cock ring during any variation of woman on top gives your partner the advantage of added clit stimulation as she’s riding you. This also takes your standard missionary and coital alignment technique positions a step further, letting you stimulate her most sensitive area without much additional effort.  A vibrating ring like this multi-stage reusable one amplifies that stimulation even further — and will feel extra good for you, too.

 

4. A Ramp Or Cushion

When you’re exploring new sex positions, it’s all about finding new angles that feel the best for both you and your partner. And sometimes, that extra throw pillow or three just doesn’t quite do it when you’re going for more complex positions — like legs on shoulders, swivel and grind, or the pancake. A ramp or cushion that gives your partner just enough lift off the floor, but enough support that it won’t collapse under your pressure could be the key to finally finding her G-spot. With this new piece of very strategic furniture, the possibilities are infinite.

 

5. A Fun Accessory

Anything new and novel you can introduce into your typical sex routine makes the whole thing feel brand new again. So if you’re still holding out on pulling the trigger on experimenting with a pair of handcuffs, a blindfold or even something more complex like a sex swing, now’s the time to get on top of it. If she’s into being tied up or blindfolded, positions that put her in less of a power position are best for playing with these new toys. Try blindfolding her and then taking her in the cowboy position. If you have the advantage of a bed with posts, handcuff her, take her arms over the post, then bend her legs upward for the Viennese oyster.

 

 

 

 

Is sex getting boring or monotonous? Not anymore! Try these 30 tips on how to spice up your sex life and you can bring the sizzle back in no time.

New relationships are always exciting, especially when it comes to sex.

The whole act of exploring each other and experiencing new together times in bed can be a rush that few things can ever give you.

In a perfect relationship, your compatibilities have to be perfect and the sex has to be awesome.

It’s quite a bit of a contradiction though.

Relationships need time to build trust and compatibility.

On the other hand, sex starts to get repetitive after a while.

 

How to spice up your sex life

If you’re in a relationship for a while, find new ways to spice up your sex life and keep it interesting.

Having sex with a new partner may feel great, but there’s nothing better than getting innovative in bed with someone you love and understand completely.

We live in a kinky world and what works sexually for one couple may not always work for another.

Find your own ways to excite each other in bed. However taboo or crazy it may seem, as long as both of you enjoy it and it doesn’t affect your relationship or anyone else negatively, you really have nothing to fear or lose.

If you want a few tips on how to spice up your sex life, here are 30 great pointers to get started in the right direction.

#1 Have an affair with you partner. Plan a date with each other and pretend like both of you are having an affair. You’ll never realize how sexy it feels until you try it. Meet each other in a restaurant and seduce each other like two lusty lovers.

#2 Role play in bed. Dressing up as someone else is an easy way to enact all your secret fantasies without having an affair. Try being a doctor and a patient, a professor and student, or even a soldier and a journo.

#3 Think teen. You may have fallen in love as young teens. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t behave like one now and then. Get creative and behave like eighteen year olds over a weekend. Dress like one, hang out in places you used to, and make out like teens!

#4 Add more foreplay. One of the best ways to have great sex is by focusing on foreplay. Spend 15 more minutes on making each other horny before having sex. Both of you will end up having better sex. Caress and compliment each other’s bodies during those 15 minutes.

#5 Make sex an impromptu, unpredictable act. As hard as it may seem, avoid planning ahead for sex or scheduling time for sex unless both of you are on very busy schedules.

#6 Be shockingly innovative and flirty. As the relationship matures, you need to come up with new ways to get innovative. Indulge in something that gets your heart racing and your sex life will get super sexy.

#7 Get sexy things into your bed. Bring in new excitement into your bed. Visit your local pharmacy or an adult store and bring in sex toys, lubes, pheromones and anything else that works to reinvigorate your senses.

#8 Feel sexy. Look good and start working out if you have to. Pamper yourselves with fragrant scrubs, sexy lingerie, and get yourself a new hair cut. Feel sexy, and you’ll look sexy.

#9 Bring your wildest fantasies alive. Just because you’re in a long term relationship doesn’t mean you have to refrain from enacting your fantasies. Talk about it with your partner and indulge in them together.

#10 Practice abstinence. If you know you can have sex whenever you want, it’ll lose its charm. Avoid having sex now and then, and save it for days when you go clubbing or indulge in something exciting. Plan this right and it can be a huge turn on.

#11 Surprise each other sexually. Surprise your partner into a sexual high now and then. Surprise him by receiving him naked when he comes home, or tell him that you’re not wearing your panties under the short skirt when both of you are out having dinner.

#12 Think beyond the bed. There are many sexy places to get naughty besides the bed. Think kitchen, couches, bathroom, backyard, or a pool. Get innovative and the sexual rewards will be more pleasurable.

#13 Add food and beverages. Bring food into bed, or cook together. Aphrodisiacal food can make lovemaking more romantic, and a few drinks can make both of you drunk and horny.

#14 Sensual massages. Get naked and give each other a sensual massage without focusing on sex. Pleasure each other and let the fingers linger a while in the tingling spots. As long as the focus is on helping your partner orgasm, it’ll make both of you feel good.

#15 Have tantric sex. Introduce tantric sex into the bedroom to have a passionate and intense sexual experience.

#16 Think kinky. Nothing beats the excitement of wild and kinky sex when the relationship is starting to slow down in bed. Talk about your fantasies and bring your kinky fetishes and lusty desires to life.

#17 Take off on a sexy vacation now and then. Pick a vacation spot that both of you would like, be it a crowded sex resort or a beautiful, idyllic paradise island. And spend all vacation thinking of nothing but sexy thoughts.

#18 Sexy texts and calls. Don’t wait for your partner to be around to seduce them. Send a few sexy photos in the middle of the day and tease your partner into wanting more when both of you get together at night.

#19 Watch porn. Sometimes, watching porn can help both of you get into the mood and have a better time making love while watching another couple making out on the screen.

#20 Fool around. Don’t wait for some alone time to make out with each other. Be affectionate with each other all the time, and take affection to a whole new level now and then. Kiss your partner when they’re on the phone with someone else, or take their pants off and give them an oral in the middle of a phone call.

#21 Body play. Play with each other’s bodies instead of just having sex. Paint on your partner’s body with glow in the dark paints or edible colors.

#22 Make a home video. Make a video together while having sex. Delete it after the act if having a sex tape freaks you out, or make sure you hide it in a safe place. Watching yourselves having sex in the video and having sex at the same time can be a huge rush for anyone.

#23 Wear sexy outfits. Wear revealing clothes, and every new and then, reveal something and make it seem like an accident.

#24 Use mirrors. Use full length mirrors alongside your bed to heighten your sexual experience. You can have sex really close to the mirror if you want to recreate a foursome sexual fantasy. Watch yourself or imagine another couple.

#25 Make some noise. Moaning in bed or whispering sexy nothings is a huge turn on that can’t be explained. Talk to each other in bed and you’ll arouse your partner in no time.

#26 Sexual setting. Design your bedroom to revolve around sex. Use fragrances and candles, and the perfect cushions to make lovemaking feel like a sexy luxury.

#27 Be truthful. You can’t experience the best sex of your lives or even stay loyal to each other unless both of you exchange ideas and sexual thoughts with each other, be it about a sexual crush or a sexual memory. Don’t be awkward mentally, and your sexual romance will bloom.

#28 Read an erotic story together. The mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. Create fantasies and imagine it together. It’ll be a bigger turn on than you think.

#29 Create sexual memories. Try something new all the time. Have sex in a car or on a beach while on a vacation, skinny dip or even with another couple in bed. As long as you create new and exciting memories all the time, sex can never ever get boring.

#30 Believe in the relationship. Nothing can tarnish your relationship as long as there’s love and trust in the air. You may indulge in many kinky ideas or even go as far as swinging. But as long as there’s love and trust, both of you can always find a way to rekindle the excitement of sex without losing each other. If you’re only looking for ways to have better sex with your partner and not a way to cheat on your partner, then your relationship will definitely stand the test of time.

Enjoy the bliss of romance and work on keeping the passion boiling with new and sexy things to try together.